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Do You Travel?
This past weekend I hopped on a quick flight to Toronto with some of my family members. It was only a couple of hours for me to go from where I live to a whole new place, a whole new city and a whole new wealth of experiences. This was the first time I had…
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Do You Know How Much Can Change In a Year?
This weekend marks a year since I sat my husband down and told him that I thought we should separate for the summer. It was one of the hardest conversations that I have ever had in my life and looking back in that moment, I was terrified. I was terrified that I was making a…
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Did You Call Your Mom Today?
Today is Mother’s Day. And before I go into all of the things I want to tell you about my own mother, I always want to make sure I acknowledge something first. Mother’s day is not always positive, happy or a celebration. For some, it is the reminder of that person they have lost, or…
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What Is The Bikini Industrial Complex?
Spring is here, which can only mean that summer is on its way! Yay! And like most of us, I assume anyway, we are both excited and somewhat insecure about the summer months and the decrease in clothing and covering up. I am a sweater all day every day kind of girl if I could…
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Do You Grieve Old Friends?
Last night I dreamt about an old friend. I woke up feeling sad. It has been a long time since I have spoke to her, and although I think of her from time to time, I have no idea what is happening in her life. Crawling out of bed, I grabbed my phone and looked…
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Have You Ever Lived Alone?
For those of you who have been following along, you would know that I moved into a new apartment at the first of the month. This apartment would be the first apartment of my own that I had since I was 19 years old. At that time, I was living on my own, going to…
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Have You Been Checking Your Boobies?
This week I had my first mammogram. At 35. This is not my first experience with breast issues and it is not my first time having to talk to a doctor about my breast health and all the things that it entails. I am unfortunately a woman who has cystic breasts. I had my first…
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Does Writing Help You To Heal?
Although I would love to tell you, and myself, that I have been consistent and constantly writing to help myself heal and process a lot of the things that have been happening in my life over the last year. Last week I told you about having some mental breakdowns, moving into my own apartment since…
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Do You Struggle With Change?
This week was my 35th birthday. I had planned on doing some writing. I had booked a mini staycation with my new beau. I was scheduled to move into my own apartment for the first time since I was 19 years old. I was excited and nervous and was ready for all of the exciting…
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What Is Anosognosia?
I learnt a new word this week. Anosognosia. According to the National Alliance on Mental Illness, Anosognosia is the medical term for an individual experiencing acute mental illness who may be experiencing a “lack of insight” or “lack of awareness.” The word comes from the Greek meaning of to not know a disease. Essentially, especially…
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What Do You Do For Writer’s Block?
Over the last few weeks I have been struggling to write. I will fully admit that my only saving grace was that I always have a few blog posts on standby in case something comes up and I don’t have the time to write. Yet, in this circumstance, it was not that I didn’t have…
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What Is Your Crisis Response?
Earlier this week, I was out running errands with my new partner when we almost got hit by another car. In that instant, as I thrust out my hand to get his attention, I immediately called him by my ex-husband’s name. Now, ignoring the awkwardness of that slip up, it was an “ah ha” moment…
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How Do You Want To Be Treated?
I am a control freak. I know it. The people who know me know it. And although I will fully admit that I am working on it, it is still something that dominates my life. I can analyze myself and discuss the ways in which I felt/feel the need to have a sense of control,…
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What Is Your Favourite Childhood Memory?
We all have those childhood memories. Some good, some bad and everything in between. Some of us are fortunate, like I was, to grow up in a home with loving parents and everything I may have needed. Some are not so lucky. But regardless of the childhood and upbringing you experienced, you have those memories.…
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Am I Still A Military (Ex) Spouse?
For those of you who have been following along, you will now learn that my ex husband and I are no longer together. It was a hard decision and one that was definitely not taken lightly. After being together for 15 years, we decided it would be a good idea for us to go our…
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Can You Thank A Nurse?
A few weeks ago, I had to support someone who had to go to the emergency room. They were really sick, and regardless of all the reasons they didn’t want to go to the hospital, they knew that they had to and begrudgingly went. And then they waited forever. A few days later, I read…
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Are You Stressed?
Over the last six months, I have been doing a lot of work on myself. I have been focusing on what I want in life, ways to make myself happy and coming up with ideas in order to combat my fatigue and burn out from both my professional and personal life. I am working on…
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Why Can’t Dogs Live Forever?
Lessons from my dog Today I got a call from my ex-husband who told me that our dog had died. It was unexpected, it was quick and it was something he felt shouldn’t be told through a text. I appreciated that, told him as much as I swallowed back my tears. Hanging up, they fought…
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Am I Being Selfish?
I will start this off by fully admitting that I can be a selfish person at times. Honestly, I think all of us can to some degree although some more than others. Over the last few years I have made a lot of changes in my life, and in some cases life alternating, and throughout…
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What Is Caregiver Burnout?
For those of you who have been following along with me, you may have read, that I was married to a man who struggled with a range of mental health conditions and substance use problems. He was unwell for a very long time, and due to his unwellness, I naturally fell into the role as…
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Can You Stop Judging Please?
Over the last month or so, I have noticed an increase in the local media writing articles or airing segments about the increase in homelessness across the province of New Brunswick. There has been a slew of different articles from different news agencies and across a variety of topics. The reasons for homelessness, the addiction…
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Are You Where You Hoped To Be?
My best friend gave me a daily calendar last year for Christmas. It was one of those small desk calendars that you pull off each day and the subject for the one she got me was inspirational quotes. I must admit that I am not an individual who uses those types of motivations to get…
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Are You Home This Christmas?
Christmas is my favorite holiday. I love the atmosphere of all the families of my hometown coming together at Christmas Eve church. I love the enjoyment and glee on my nieces’ faces as they open up their presents. I love the turkey dinners, the ongoing sweets and the quality time spent with family. I love…
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Where Do You Find Your Happy Place?
Over the last few months, I have been exploring a variety of different mindfulness and meditation techniques that are supposed to help with stress and anxiety relief. I say supposed to because although I will admit that deep breathing and yoga do help ease my tension, a lot of the other things I have explored…
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Are you Getting Enough Rest?
At my last counselling appointment, I was complaining, yet again, that I was feeling exhausted. I was sleeping a lot, usually good sleep, eating healthier and for the most part doing some form of exercise on a semi-regular basis. I was doing all of the “healthy” recommendations that are always given to us and yet,…
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What Do You Want To Be When You Grow Up?
What do you want to be when you grow up? That infamous question that I think every adult asks a child as they are growing up. Do you want to be a teacher? An astronaut? A rock star? or a NHL player? What is it you want to be when you are old enough to…
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Why Do You Care Who They Love?
Sitting with a friend this week, I had my privilege checked and it stopped me in my tracks. This friend did not say anything intentionally to me to do so, but rather was discussing her own story and for one moment, and since then, I had the thought shit, I never considered that. I am…
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Why Did You Stop Writing?
For those of you who have been following along with me, you may have noticed that I had taken a break from posting. And in all fairness, I took a break from a lot of things, and it was needed. I needed to stop. Stop doing the things that were good for me, stop doing…
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Do You Know The Difference Between Aggression And Anger?
Due to the nature of the work that I do, I have noticed in recent months that there are a lot of individuals who have been labeled as aggressive when really they are just plain old angry. In all fairness, they have the right to be angry. They are dismissed, disrespected and sleeping outside. They…
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When Will I Be A Mom?
Today is Mother’s Day. I called and wished my mom and sister a happy mother’s day. I texted my friends who have kids and wished them the same. I took a moment to be grateful that not only is my mom still alive and there for me to thank, but that she was an awesome…